Fertility treatment for all its improvements doesn’t always work every time and it may take a while for you get over a failure and think about trying once more. After the physical stress of intervention and the build-up of hopes, it can be devastating if your intervention isn’t successful. Almost everyone that has experience in the fertility subject area agrees that it takes time to recuperate from failed fertility attempts and it is worth waiting for a few months before trying once more.Before you do resolve to try further treatments it is worth speaking to a fertility medical specialist to discuss different treatment options and assess if there is anything else you can do to better your chances. Seeing a counselor can also help you to discuss your feelings.
Many embryos are lost during pregnancy through spontaneous abortion and this number is almost the same as with natural conception or aided, via fertility intervention. Under normal circumstances you may just think you were having a late menstrual cycle as opposed to a spontaneous abortion. However, it is because you are having fertility treatment that you become more mindful of what is taking place to your body and know immediately when something is wrong.
At some stage you may choose that you no longer wish to try further fertility intervention whether it is after your initial attempt or 10th. It could come to the stage where your gynecologist may tell you that there is hardly any hope of becoming pregnant or that you just cannot afford to continue. It may be the situation that you just do not wish to go forward with any type of treatment.
It is important that you feel you are making a choice to stop treatment, and that it is not a sign that you have failed, or not done enough. Of course, it need not mean giving up all hope of having kids - you may wish to explore the possibility of other alternatives, such as adopting and fostering. The only choice that matters is the one that you ultimately make, suits your conditions and your emotions. Try, if you can, to speak to a counselor or other individuals that have had similar conditions as they are normally very willing to help you on how you too can move forward. There are organisations which can provide help for individuals who are exploring what life without kids has to provide.
Remember to take it a step at a time and don’t let dread stop you whether it’s to continue with treatment or not. Also, don’t automatically assume that others will empathise what you’re going through, so if people say or do something insensitive they aren’t purposely trying to hurt you. Choose a technique for dealing with it, such as silently counting to ten while smiling at them - they’ll get the hint - and in most cases will feel horrified that they’ve hurt you.
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